Wednesday, September 28, 2016

7 Tips for Increasing Confidence and Getting What You Want

7 Tips for Increasing Confidence and Getting What You Want
What if you could get past those little personality quirks that keep you from getting the role or the job you want - the ones that keep you from living your dreams? Would you do it? Would you do what it takes? And what if it was way easier than you thought? At the New York Acting School for Film and Television, we believe that confidence and commitment are key. So take a look at these confidence building tips below and commit. See your dreams begin to take off.

#1.  If you’re doing something for the first time, try imagining you’ve already done it in the past. Close your eyes, then vividly imagine you succeeding wildly at what you are really going to do for the first time. The mind does NOT know the difference between something VIVIDLY imagined and something real. Make it vivid by involving all 5 senses.
#2. One really powerful thing you can do is to ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” Far too often, we place excess importance on potential problems. We all have a certain amount of energy so let’s apply it to creating extraordinary relationships, advancing our careers and meeting our goals INSTEAD of wasting that energy worrying.
Take action on what you have control over and minimize risks for what you don’t. Then invest your energy wisely.
#3. Be a real life copycat! No, not really, but do find someone to shadow and look at where they’re already confident - then copy the habits that keep them there.  Find someone who is already confident in that area and copy them.
Model as many of their behaviors, attitudes, values, and beliefs for the context you want to be confident in as you can. How can you do this? Talk with them if you have access to them. If you don’t have access to them, get as much exposure to them as you can. This could be talking to people who know the person and/or buying their products if they have some.
#4. Use the tool known as the “as-if” frame. I literally love this frame of mind. IF you were confident, how would you be acting? How would you be moving? How would you be speaking? What would you be thinking? What would you tell yourself inside? By asking yourself these questions, you are literally forced to answer them by going into a confident state. You will then be acting “as-if” you are confident. Now just forget you are acting long enough and pretty soon you’ll develop it into a habit.
#5. Go into the future and ask if what you’re faced with is such a big deal. This might be a bit morbid and yet this works tremendously well. Imagine yourself on your deathbed looking back over your life. You are surrounded by your friends and family. You’re reviewing your life. Is what you’re faced with now even going to pop up? That’s highly unlikely.
Keeping things in a proper and positive perspective really reduces and even eliminates fear.
#6. You’ve got to disarm and take the power out of that constantly negative, nagging, internal voice. That internal voice can stop anyone from getting where they want to be. Here’s how to disarm that internal voice: imagine a volume control and lower the volume. Or how about changing the internal voice to Spongebob? Do you think you could take Spongebob seriously if he were criticizing you? Change the voice to a clown voice. The point is to disarm the voice by altering the way it nags at you. If I hear my own voice nagging me, it stops me. If I hear a clown voice, I laugh and continue onward.
#7. Remember that you lose out on 100% of the opportunities that you never go for. To get what you want, ask for it. I fully believe that if I ask enough people for whatever I want, I can get it. This is not necessarily true and yet it’s a useful belief. As you think about your goals and what you are striving for, how effective would it be for you to believe that all the people out there want to help you if you only ask? Whether that is true or not in the “real world” does not matter. If you find that belief empowering, I invite you to adopt it as your own.
What do you think? Can you do it? These powerful and helpful tips inspired by the book “Unstoppable Confidence” by Kent Sayre. And at our school for acting, we use those techniques and many others to help you get where you want to be in your confident and succeeding acting career. Want more info? Don’t wait. Call us at the New York Acting School for Film and Television today!

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